Adhisthana Retreats

Event Title: Helpful Communication and the Practice Lotus

Led by Karunagita, Amaragita + team

This is a weekend aimed at mitra convenors and others supporting people to deepen their practice, whether in centres, Buddhafield and elsewhere. While the main focus is on vertical Kalyana Mitrata, the content will also be relevant in peer friendships and communication.

Our Triratna culture of prioritising friendship and human connection means that many of us have a great many cups of tea, walks, meals and other one to one communication with people we want to support in their practice. These meetings can be helpful; it may work well to meet in a context where there is no agreed agenda for discussion or formal role.

However, many of us have experiences where these ‘cups of tea’ don’t go well. Perhaps people stay on the surface of their experience and chat, for example, about their pets, children or gardening, then raise a relevant issue or question about practice in the last few minutes. Sometimes, perhaps, the conversation is stilted, bumpy, feels too lose or lacks focus, or someone becomes upset or there are misunderstandings. We may feel ill equipped to respond, unclear of our role or unable to really make the most of the precious time together.

If any of this rings bells for you, do come to this weekend. We will explore how we can have intentional, practise-based conversations which help people to untangle the knots and help reveal what they need in their practice. We will focus on ways of both listening and speaking which enable us to respond with more awareness and clarity and at handling tricky conversations.

In the second half of the weekend we will introduce the Practice Lotus (a draft tool) and explore whether and how it could help support these conversations, by putting on the table an intentional conversation, providing a framework and prompts for discussion and perhaps helping to bring clarity to where someone is in their practice and what they need next.

The weekend will be participatory, with input, workshops and practice in pairs, held in the context of a weekend retreat at Adhisthana. We hope that people can come and explore their unsatisfactory conversations and tendencies and leave with greater clarity and confidence in having helpful conversations that benefit people's practise and make the most of those precious opportunities for helpful communication. One way of envisaging this is that’s its about how to have ‘a cup of tea’ well.

This retreat is for members of the Triratna Buddhist Order

Start Date: 28th Jun 2019
End Date: 30th Jun 2019
Deposit: £52
Price: £74 (Waged/Supported (including deposit)) / £52 (Unwaged/Unsupported (including deposit))

Bursary Fund - If you can’t afford to come on retreat you might be interested in applying for our Bursary Fund.